She think what she do and what I do is equal - N!gg@ please!

First of all their ain't too many women I've ever known that can out work me. Both my grandmothers, and my momz are the hardest working woman I've ever met. I get a great deal of my work ethic from seeing these women bust a$$ pretty much all of their lives. My Pops, even though I didn't grow up in the house with him, I've heard legendary stories from my maternal grandmother about how hard of a worker he was even as a teenager. I said all that s#%t to say I'm one of 2 of the hardest working n!gg@s I know, and I just told you the first one!

So let me beak it down to you real simple dawgg - your woman should compliment your grind, but her contribution to the fam will never be equal to yours (period)! My G, first of all I'm 17 years older than my fiance. So there is a huge generational gap between us. So in terms of personal and family values there are quite a few differences. But I always thought hard work was universal! I had no f#%kin' clue you had motivate a whole adult person to get up and grind and for themselves. What type of ish is that? My peoples didn't raise me like that, so it's hard for me to understand anything from an able bodied person that looks and smells like laziness.

I'm an entrepreneur (in every sense of the word), so I work at the crib. It was a 2 year decision, brought on by some life changing experiences, that finally produced the courage I needed to pursue my calling as a career. So I expect my grind to be on different level than my fiance's. That's a given! However, when it comes to the crib, I put in work (hard)! I fully expect my fiance to contribute to managing how our household functions. We have 3 kiddos. We got a lil  joint together, and she has 2 daughters. All the kids are single digit ages, so there is a lot of work to do all the f#%kin time. And with 2 girls, ages (5) & (9), them joints be off the chain errrday! I cook, clean, wash clothes (and fold them s#%ts), do dishes, grocery shop, change stank a$$ diapers, drop off/pick up from school, discipline kids, have play time, cut grass, take out trash, get my bio-daughter errrother weekend plus 2 days during the week, chase after my 19 month old, and still stay a fly a$$ n!gga! And then still make time to write books and other material for my businesses. My G, ain't nothing left for my fiance to do (except hair)!

I used to catch fire about the inequality of work load in our crib. But the truth is I view my fatherhood as a calling, not just a 18 year part time job! That's why as a PNP it is important to get your props for what you do. They ain't giving out no PNP awards! I do this s#%t because I love it My G! So don't let your lady fool you with that fake a$$ talk about how tired she is. Tell her you're a PNP - the hardest job in the world!

PreNup Pops - What the hell is that?!

What's good fam? If you are looking for a lame a$$ blog about being a simp dad, you are in the wrong place. For real bruh, this blog is for my "G's" that bust they a$$ to raise kids in a not so

traditional household. If you are living with your woman, and support her in some parenting capacity, but not married, then this blog is for you! I can tell you now that I don't give 2 s#%ts about being politically correct, nor sensitive to people's feelings. What I do passionately care about is being a strong, effective, empowering dad! Currently, I'm a PNP. PNP stands for PreNup Pops. Many people ask me "what the hell is a PreNup Pops?"

Let me help you with something right from the jump – don't nobody care nothing about yo lil father-figure role you play with your girlfriend's kids. You are a PNP my n!gg@. That's a term I use to refer to them dudes that work just as hard, if not harder, than the bio-dads to raise their muthaf#%kin' kids. It's stands for Prenup Pops. It's a title for us hard working n!gg@s that f#%kin' take on all the responsibilities of a father before actually saying “I do.” Man its cool! I ain't trippin,! A lot of us men have been PnP's at some point. “You just can't stay there my G – you just can't stay there!”                                         

- excerpt from my book "Ain't Nobody Coming - Chronicles of a PreNup Pops" 

Let's face it. Many households are blended, and in many of those cribs the couples are not even married. Raising another n!gg@'s kid(s) ain't easy dawgg! Being a PNP is more complex than being a traditional dad. It's not quite a step-dad, and is far more riskier than being a "baby-daddy." I'm so sick of reading the same ole fatherhood crap that never addresses the f#%kin' issues I face errrday! There are some issues that are similar to "blended families", but when you're living with your kids momz who also has additional joints that are not yours, that ish becomes complicated super quick My G. The truth of the matter is that a PNP is just as much a father as any other dad. Real talk, PNP's parenting game has to stay one hun'ed 24/7. PNP's are held to a higher standard than bio-dads, and you can't get got slippin' or that's your a$$!

 My hope with this blog is to provide some much needed content for My G's who are earnestly working hard to be the best father-figure they can. I want to provide discourse that engages n!gg@s who otherwise would be left out of the larger conversation because our brand of fathering gets overlooked. We got issues too dawgg, and we're gonna talk about them s#%ts in a way that we understand!

I can’t stand chump-a$$ dudes that really ain’t bout that parenting life trying to inform another struggling dude about how to make it as a father-figure. If you ain’t in the game, keep steppin’ because I really don’t have time nor patience for some simple BS’ness you don’t even use your damn yourself. I can’t live in fear, nor believe in some hype that surrogate-fathering gets better with time. At my lowest point as a PNP I realized Ain’t Nobody Coming to save you’re a$$ and bail you out of ish! When you realize it’s all on you then you can boss-up and face PNP parenting like a real MAN!

          - excerpt from my book "Ain't Nobody Coming - Chronicles of a PreNup Pops"

Welcome to The PreNup Pops - Urban Fatherhood for Prenuptial Dads!!!